Extending my Middle East Tour

My boys in the Middle East begged me to stay and extend my time with them. I am normally not that easy to persuade but I am kind and agreed to stay an extra 9 days. I will be in Dubai till the 4th of September then two days to Bahrain to be back in Dubai till the 13th.
I always like new boys to train. I have a great collection of toys with me! So apply for session now and you will be worshiping my feet in no time. You can also call me at +971556795335 for quicker bookings but don’t waste my time.

Rubber Cult – My favorite London Rubber Party

madame_caramel_latexI like dressing up in Rubber, The moment it touches my body and becomes my second skin excites me very much. I never buy Latex from online stores. I have my very own designer that knows my body and she knows exactly what I need to bring out my best female features.

Of course I like to dress up in Rubber for the big parties abroad like the German Fetish Ball. But in London my favorite rubber party is Rubber Cult. Mistress Kim is the hostess and organizer of the event. She always has a gift for booking amazing talented artists. Every party has something new something I haven’t seen before.

I of course like to see all my good friends dressed in Latex for some reason I always want to touch them dressed in Latex.


Next Rubber Cult is on Saturday September 26th 2015 from 8pm to 2am. If you want you can escort me. You will be my personal servant the whole evening. At Rubber Cult there are many options to play or maybe I just give you to Nurse Painless for your medical treatment.

Contact me and join me for the next Rubber Cult.


In Bahrain now (sessions available)

I am enjoying my Middle East trip. Had a few wonderful days in Dubai seeing all my loyal dogs. They are treating there Black Mistress very good and so they should.
Now I am a few days in Bahrain a good boy bought my tickets so he could spend time at his Mistress feet. Of course I have some spots available for new good dogs that want to experience what a true Black Dominatrix van do with a boy like you. Contact me now by email madame_caramel@hotmail.co.uk please state your name , age, nationality , your BDSM interests , date day and time of the session. You can also call me +971556795335 for quicker bookings but don’t waste my time.


Dubai Black Mistress

Its that time again my arab boys. You beautiful black mistress is coming to town with a bigger collection of toys lots of new outfits for me and my sissy boys.

Mistress will be in Dubai on the 6th August but i will be also travelling to Doha , Jordan & Bahrain


Dont forget to book your session by email madame_caramel@hotmail.co.uk please state your name , age, nationality , your BDSM interests , date day and time of the session.

Madame Caramel

You can also call me +971556795335 for quicker bookings but don’t waste my time .

Madame Caramel

Double session with Mistress Heelena , Modern Empress & Madame Estelle available but notice is required for this bookings.


Im Available for overnight bookings from 7pm till 2am please call for details.

Lifestyle V Professional

They can both be rewarding if you get the right submissive or client in your domain. As a professional dominatrix, I truly enjoy the thrill of meeting different submissives, slaves, sluts and sissies. All these different types of play and different scenarios and fetishes can be such a turn on. But like everything in life, the first time is nerve racking for both. We don’t know each other and, depending on personalities, it can really take a while to connect to someone. I’m connectable, I love people so if they come with the right attitude, with great vibes, with a great understanding of what I say on my website then we are more likely to get along just fine. As a professional I’m here to cater for some fetishes and fantasies, to help you experience your deepest and darkest desires, providing of course I agree with them. Not every one is lucky enough to find that ever lasting connection with someone special who is also dominant and who truly enjoys the D/s dynamics.


Now enjoying the lifestyle, and I say this from experience, is really bliss. To have the man that you love and adore put you on a pedestal on a daily basis, release you from the mundane, attend to all your needs and indulge with you in your wildest fantasies is truly a godsend to a woman. It’s very hard to find, but not impossible. It takes a real man to submit and allow a woman to lead him. My advice to many is to look for the same qualities in a submissive that you would want in a vanilla partner, this combined with his need to serve is a win-win situation. I have 5 collared slaves and two as my love partners and submissives. Nevertheless I still have an enormous line of clients who I truly enjoy and appreciate. In the end I love and care for them all.

The Dominant Types.

Over the years I have observed many forms of Dominant submissive behaviour. Although I have never been known as one to try and categorise anything or anybody, in the educational spirit of creating discussion and thought, I wanted to discuss some of my observations. Hopefully this dissertation will help those new to the lifestyle find a place for themselves, an area to identify with or explain various forms of Dominant submissive behaviour. And for those who are in the lifestyle to just enjoy the discussion.

I think that Dominants can fall into one of three categories , with modifications within them. I want to discuss the major categories, but leave the modifications to your imagination and/or conclusions. There could even be combinations of types. The types fall into the categories of Authoritarian, Democratic, and Equalitarian. These types have their sub counterparts. I will discuss the main characteristics of these subs and again leave the various modifications thereof up to your imagination. Remember, although I may mention some negative things about some of these categories, these persons and situations must be evaluated by the quality of the people involved and not by the activities themselves. Remember that variation is endless. I do not intend to offend anyone by these generalisations. We all know that there are exceptions to every rule and that “we” are all “exceptions.”

The Authoritarian Dominant

The Authoritarian Dominant is one who “rules” with the absolute power, the total control. Makes all decisions, there is no questioning of what is asked or done. The only recourse the sub may enjoy is perhaps a safe word or , if allowed, few if any limitations. These Dom’s enjoy the strictest master/slave relationships. They attract subs who want to be totally controlled. This is the “slave” submissive. Many of these subs find themselves being considered doormat types by those who do not understand this form of D/s. (However, it may attract door-mat type persons and power freak type individuals). This form may and usually does involve strict total voluntary surrender either mentally/emotionally and/or physically, and usually through heavy S&M activities. This is where pushed limits are very much a part of the activities. Some of the strongest bonds/relationships exist in these situations. Here is where one can also find the strict 24 hours a day 7 days a week (24 / 7) D/s relationships. There are no long drawn out training sessions to effect certain behaviours as in the Democratic Domination. Things are just done, no negotiations; limits are pushed and it is accepted by both. There is a great sense of closeness and coupling in the uncensored relinquishing of power and the wielding of absolute control. They fully understand this concept of D/s and live it strictly and with elegance. Their implements (toys if you will , but in this type I don’t look upon them as toys – you can be sure that they are the “real” thing) are highly crafted, sometimes intricate, wielded proficiently and effectively. The Dominants are highly skilled in their use. And you might say that the submissives are highly skilled at receiving the results. These implements developed by the Authoritarian types are borrowed in kind and concept by other D/s types. It can be a profound and sobering experience for some not yet familiar with this type of domination to witness an Authoritarian scene. You will find this type referred to as real D/s. and it is “real.” This is what “real” is usually referred to. But D/s is not only S&M , it encompasses a wide variety of D/s behaviours and conventions. So real is real for what you are involved in and not what others do. This “is” real BDSM, have no doubt about this. It is, however, only one aspect or area of D/s. I think that here one finds the situation where individuals feel naturally (born) this way and fall into this easily and with great acceptance and comfort in spite of outward appearances.

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The Democratic Dominant

The Democratic Dominant ( sounds like an oxymoron ) is one who controls by agreement. Contracts, discussions, limitations, conditions, safe words, times of day, places where, are all spelled out or discussed and are strictly followed. Sometimes in written contracts. Punishments are provided for the enjoyment of both when these are not followed; and rewards are given (I think) when they are followed. Submissives who are attracted to these situations are those who want the same agreed conditions, especially the limitations. They can be called feisty, bad, spoiled, hard to tame, because they like to challenge the limits/rules — either because they want it this way (to have control), or have certain fears. This can be the game area, where fun supersedes the Dominant/submissive operative. The Dominant and submissive like the actual and varied activities and enjoy participating in them. The submissive probably does not want to actually surrender, but likes playing as if she is does. These form the least strong relationships and bonds. This area is where the fun seekers usually reside, those who do not fully understand or have not fully experienced what D/s is, and maybe don’t want to. Or, frankly, the inexperienced. The activity or concept of “Topping from the Bottom” is also found here. The rules are a guide to those who like this type of interaction, or a crutch for those who have little or no knowledge of what it is all about on an intellectual, philosophical and physical level. “Cookbook” Domming and submitting. Many like this type of situation since it is a convenient and safe way to play with D/s (fun) or it makes it easy to feel like they are or are indeed practicing D/s. This type also serves a very good purpose as a safe passage to other forms of D/s, or for learning, especially among those who are doing this for the first time with someone new, or for the first time ever. After experience with D/s or experience with that particular person is gained, the “rules of the road” so to speak become more of an intimated reaction between the two, and can lead to some very strong and satisfying D/s relationships. Some of these types or agreements can be of the 24/7 type, usually by agreement, but most involve predetermined parameters. This is the area for those Dominants who like long drawn out training sessions and submissives who are resistant to certain things and need to be broken down or want to be broken down repeatedly. Also, surprisingly, we can find the very S&M orientated individuals here as well as in the Authoritarian (totalitarian) types. The individuals are very much into the giving and receiving pain. The relationship is formed with what you might say is an underlying agreement; that is ” I like and enjoy giving you as much pain as I can give and you can stand.” — “You want and enjoy as much pain as I can give and you can stand.” — “Agreed.” — “So let’s be together.” Another democratic agreement made.

The Equalitarian Dominant

The Equalitarian Dominant is one who controls by teaching, mentoring and leading. This Dominant feels and knows that when they find a comparable submissive that things will happen as a progression of the interaction. Usually just a mention or short learning situation is necessary to obtain a certain interaction. Both the Dominant and the submissive “get it”, need very little, so called “training” and naturally know what the other needs after interaction. This Dominant does not like the situation of constantly repeating and forcing a particular behavior (submission) to occur. It is not the activities but the surrender as the result of the Domination that is the objective and enjoyment. Creativity is an important part of this situation. These are the more intellectual, into the philosophy/psychology mechanism of this lifestyle. They understand the concepts and resultant interactions and can put it into real life. They do not need many “rules” like the Democratic type , nor do they like the heavy S&M activities; preferring submission to occur as a result of an instilled desire in the submissive to surrender. She “wants” to as a result of the Dominant’s knowledge and skill at Dominating. Sensuousness is the rule and pain is given and received as a form of sensuous stimulation. Light pain as opposed to severe. Sensuous torture is a popular activity in this area. Both the Dominant and the submissive must be naturally this way. These are the ones who claim to be born this way, have always been this way. They fully understand the concept of D/s – it comes to them naturally and easily. They attract a submissive who truly and naturally wants to please, and who will observe and sense what the dominant is communicating; and be able to translate that into the right thing to do. The doing or saying without having to be told type. The submissives beg easily and surrender sweetly. They understand the concept of respect and surrender and can make it happen after initial learning with little or no additional instructions. They embrace the surrender gratefully and lovingly. These individuals usually form the most intimate of relationships, the closest. There is not much downside to these relationships, because they not only grasp the concepts, but can make it happen too; and their attraction is based on strong mutual respect. Their strong relationship is not readily apparent to the unobservant, but they are always subtly in the 24-7 mode. The fact that these things come forth naturally and without the need for orders or rules are a great affirmation and source of pride, satisfaction and loving. Just as the strictness and forbearance without the need for orders or rules of the Authoritarian/Totalitarian situation affirms pride, satisfaction and loving.
by: Owlm48